Just like gossip (see yesterday’s post), flattery is an underrated speech sin, something we offer or easily absorb without much thought. But “a flattering mouth works ruin” according to Proverbs (26:28). People who flatter are after something, and the one being flattered usually sees right through it. Even so, we may be susceptible to it.

Paul links flatterers with those who are out to deceive: ". . . those who are such do not serve our Lord Jesus Christ, but their own belly, and by smooth words and flattering speech deceive the hearts of the simple” (Rom. 16:17–18)," and Proverbs warns us not only to avoid being flatterers ourselves but also to guard against the flattery of others: “Do not associate with one who flatters with his lips” (Prov. 20:19).

Pretty extreme, isnt it? But its very extremity is what tips us off that we need to be really careful here. Flattery appeals to us where we are weak. It appeals to our desire to be loved, to be admired, to be sought after, to be wanted. At some level, we all lust to be lusted after, and it is to this that flattery appeals. Flatterers are trying to get to us by stirring up this lust. Avoidance is key. But also is the recognition that our well-being isn't wrapped up in the way others see us.

Labels: female character, godly character, sin